[美］穆里尔詹姆斯&[美］多萝西琼基瓦德/Muriel James&Dorothy Jongeward
赢家不会让他们的生命局限在自己“理当”成为何种人的观念中。事实上，他们顺应天性行事。所以，他们不会费尽心思地装模作样、故做姿态、玩弄他人。他们十分清楚爱与装爱、傻与装傻、真才实学与故做高深之间的差别，赢家没有必要藏在面具后掩饰自己。
赢家不害怕独立思考和运用自身的知识。他们既懂得辨别事实与想法，又不会装做通晓一切。他们倾听他人的意见，衡量他人的言论，最后得出自己的判断。尽管赢家懂得尊重和敬佩他人，却不会彻底为他人所限制、摧垮、束缚或吓倒。
赢家不会装可怜，骗取同情；也不会怨天尤人，为自己开脱。事实上，他们肩负起了生活中自己应尽的责任，别人虚张声势的权威不会左右他们。赢家主宰着自己的命运，对此他们深信不疑。
Winners do not dedicate their lives to a concept of what they imagine they should be；rather，they are themselves and as such do not use their energy putting on a performance，maintaining pretense，and manipulating others.They are aware that there is a difference between being loving and acting loving，between being stupid and acting stupid，between being knowledgeable and acting knowledgeable.Winners do not need to hide behind a mask.
Winners are not afraid to do their own thinking and to use their own knowledge.They can separate facts from opinion and don’t pretend to have all the answers.They listen to others，evaluate what they say，but come to their own conclusions.Although winners can admire and respect other people，they are not totally defined，demolished，bound，or awed by them.Winners do not play“helpless”，nor do they play the blaming game.Instead，they assume responsibility for their own lives.They do not give others a false authority over them.Winners are their own bosses and know it.
